I've been told by my doctor that I am Peri-menopausal. I had an ablation about 5 years ago due to having very heavy and very frequent periods. I have to use the Estring and a cream periodically due to thinning, and painful intercourse. I have a lot of issues going on in my life right now. My mother has Parkingsons/Dementia and is in a skilled nursing facility. I have three other siblings that have not lifted a finger to help me with anything, and they barely go and see her. I am very sad and I feel very depressed all the time - I don't rest well and I cry on a daily basis. I should be happy right now - my first grandchild was born only six weeks ago. I used to go to the gym everyday and now I don't have the energy or the desire to go. I've put on weight despite the fact that I try really hard to eat heathly. My arms, shoulders, and elbows hurt nonstop. Sometimes I feel like I don't want to be here anymore! I went to my MD about these feelings and they said that I was not suffering from depression, but that I was in a depressing situation. They advised that I come up with a plan to make myself happy. I have been put on anti-depressants before but they don't seem to work. Do you think that I need to make an appointment with my OBYGN and talk to him to see if I should be put on HRT? What can I do? Is there a blood test that can tell if you need to be on HRT? I've heard such bad things about hormone replacement drugs that I'm a little worried. I would greatly appreciated any advice you can give me.

Do you have questions? Please feel free to ask.

Click here to ask your question

How helpful was this answer?

Here's what I recommend

As the A.Vogel Menopause expert, I recommend Menoforce® Sage tablets and Menopause Support to help you through this stage of your life

Learn more

Did you know?

You won’t get the menopause the minute you turn 50! The average starting age is actually between 45 and 55 and it can often depend on a number of factors including hereditary, weight and health, however every single woman will have an individual menopause.

Learn the truth behind other menopause myths

Healthy & nutritious dinner ideas

Get new recipes in your inbox every week. Sign up now

Hayfever? Check the pollen count in your area.